Showing posts with label mother. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mother. Show all posts

Monday, 6 September 2010

Happy 65th Birthday Mother

Dearest Mother,

today it is your 65th Birthday.
You will never get to read this but I am writing it anyway. Energetically speaking you will perceive it and for me that's enough.
Once you were the person I hated most in my life. But slowly I learnt to respect you, appreciate and show gratitude to.
I now recognise you as my most crucial life-teacher. Because of you I have come to discover things about me and life in general that have utterly changed the way I feel and look at life.
We haven't arrived yet to have a healthy mother-daughter relationship but I think we are on our way.
What is for sure dearest Mother, I now know that you are preciously important to me and I'm looking forward to that day when we can peacefully sit near each other, basking of each others' love.
Happy Birthday MUM.

Your daughter

Tuesday, 6 May 2008

Review / Recensione: When You and Your Mother Can't be Friends

I would recommend this book to anyone who has ever had problems with their mother or simply need to understand mother-daughter dynamics. This interplay does not only effect the direct protagonists but it also has a profound effect on our choice of friends, partners and work. Understanding this relationship means starting the road to real maturity.

I myself being a person who is in therapy because of a dominating mother, found this book helpful. Reading about other women having problems with their own mother helped me feel less lonely and less of a freak.

The book is divided in various sections amongst which the various types of dysfunctional mothers and the different types of dysfunctional daughter. One the result of the other in a series of cause and effect transmitted down through generations.

Reading it helped me understand more of what my therapists says and proud of having started a journey in not only discovering myself but also maybe of one day being able to accept my mother for who she is….a person with all its pros and cons, daughter and product of her generation and those of her forebears.



Suggerirei questo libro a tutti quelli che hanno avuto problemi con la loro madre o semplicemente hanno bisogno di capire le dinamiche fra madre e figlia. Questa dinamica non solo ha effetto sulle due protagoniste direttamente ma anche sulla nostra scelta di amici, partner e lavoro. Capirlo vorrebbe dire cominciare la via verso la vera maturità.

Pur essendo una persona che è in terapia perché ha una madre dominante, ho trovato questo libro d’aiuto. Leggere su altre donne che hanno avuto problemi con la loro madre mi ha fatto sentire meno sola e strana.

Il libro è diviso in varie sezioni tra cui le diverse tipologie di madri disfunzionali e le diverse tipologie di figlie disfunzionali che si possono incontrare. L’una il risultato dell’altra nel susseguirsi di generazioni intere.

Leggerlo mi è stato d’aiuto per capire di più quello che la mia terapista dice e sono orgogliosa di avere cominciato un viaggio per scoprire non solo me stessa ma forse anche per essere in grado un giorno di accettare mia madre per quella che è…una persona con i suoi pro e contro, figlia e prodotto della sua generazione e di quelle antecedenti.