Tuesday 6 April 2010

How to be a better Friend - Astrologically Speaking

Today I stumbled upon an interesting article on www.astrology.com. 
Mine (the highlighted text) couldn't be more accurate...
What hit the mark was the last phrase:
"the lightness of being that accompanies acts of forgiveness"
Life would be much easier, at least for me, if I learnt to forgive others and myself.
Have a long way to go...!!!

WESTERN ASTROLOGY

How To Be a Better Friend

BY HOLIDAY MATHIS OCTOBER 07, 2009 08:04 PM EST
How To Be a Better Friend
Sure, you're a good friend -- but in every friendship there is room to grow, right? Here is one thing your astrological sign can do to tighten up those bonds that only friends can truly have.
ARIES: Notice and remember.
You are naturally outgoing and caring and, quite frankly, accustomed to being people's favorite. But don't get too comfortable. There is work required in friendship, and usually it has to do with paying attention. The little things matter. Your friends are always giving you hints about what they want in life and what might be meaningful or helpful to them. All you have to do is take note and follow through.
TAURUS: Be eventful.
You're a true blue kind of friend. Your consistent quality of attention fosters trust. The routines and rituals of your relationships establish a strong foundation. Take it to the next level by creating special moments with your friends -- events that that are surprising, memorable and maybe just wacky! Give yourself and your friend something to laugh about as you grow older.
GEMINI: Give one-on-one time.
You twins are social butterflies who like to do things in groups. Seeing everyone at once is both convenient and energizing. And while a boisterous gathering is usually a blast, the intimacy that keeps friendship alive can get lost in the crowd. So be sure to fortify your friendships with time devoted exclusively to each person.
CANCER: Be vulnerable.
You have lovely manners and an air of decorum that keeps your friendly unions supportive and positive. You feel a responsibility to put a sunny spin on things and present a respectable front. Just remember that it's okay to be honest with the people who love you, even when your true feelings are not pretty. If you always try to hide emotions like sadness or anger, you'll miss an opportunity for healthy bonding. Keep it real.
LEO: Just listen.
There is no skill that's more rare and precious to a friendship than good listening. Undivided attention is a gift that doesn't cost anything to give, and yet it's so valuable. Good listening is done with the mouth closed and the heart open. It comes without anecdotes from your own life or stories about when you were in a similar position. Good listening isn't easy, but it's simple.
VIRGO: Be easy.
People mess up sometimes. (Well, not you of course, but other people, wink-wink.) Your grace in overlooking the mistakes and flaws of your friends will elevate you to sainthood. And in the unlikely case that you too should blunder in the future, you'll be deserving of the same mercy. And the best part about letting these minor blunders go is the lightness of being that accompanies acts of forgiveness.   
LIBRA: Make it about you sometimes.
It's probably hard for you to believe this, but it is possible for a person to be too selfless. So, you're more comfortable giving than taking. You still have to take when it's your turn. Let them pick up the lunch tab and make them listen to your way-long story about your sister while you're at it -- and don't feel guilty! Otherwise it makes other people feel uncomfortable about the lopsided energy flow in the relationship.   
SCORPIO: Be honest -- but not too honest.
Your talent for seeing the bottom line truth is absolutely astounding. You know when your friend is fooling herself in some regard or when she could be doing a better job at something. You even know how she could solve some of her problems immediately. But part of being a good friend is in not saying all that you know. Honor the notion that each person's process and pacing is different.
SAGITTARIUS: Put your feelers out.
Your moods are easy to read. Mostly, you tell people exactly what state you're in, and that keeps your relationships straightforward, just the way you like them. Note that some people are not as forthright with their emotions -- they just haven't adopted such an uncomplicated approach. Be sensitive to how your friends are feeling, and check in often with them on an emotional level.
CAPRICORN: Make and keep friendly appointments.
Typically a Capricorn's busy life includes work, extra work and plenty of preparation for more work. Then there's the work you do just to be able to work -- for instance housework or schoolwork … well it's endless. Friends help you break up that relentless routine. Put your friends on the schedule just like they were one of your other important appointments and keep those meetings sacred. 
AQUARIUS: Bring on the compliments.
Your friends love to get your approval. When you notice qualities in them that they don’t realize or recognize the talents that they take for granted, what you are really doing is loving them! And here's the bonus: the positive light you shine on your friends bounces right back to you. Your compliments to friends actually build your own self-esteem. 
PISCES: Establish boundaries.
Most Pisces intuitively create close relationships without knowing how they did it. It's so easy for you to be compassionate, empathetic and connected to others that your friendships are usually intimate right from the start. So it's crucial that you're also mindful to give your friends space. Honor the natural ebbs and flows of friendship without worry.

2 comments:

L said...

Ah.. I am an Aries, but I don't think I am anyone's favorite. *Smile* But honestly I should pay closer attention to others. A lovely virgo! Blessings, L

Acquafortis said...

Welcome L.
Maybe you are not paying enough attention to others to notice that you are well loved....